Ibala: ukukhetha amagama ngobulumko kunokwenza ubomi bube lula
Ukuthelekiswa nemeko xa kuvuthuza umoya kwaye sifumana iingcinga ezingahleliwe, ngokufanayo iimvakalelo zomntu zenziwa zizinto zangaphandle. Amabala oluntu ngandlel 'ithile ayasiphazamisa; ukusihambisa kude neendlela zethu ezicwangcisiweyo. Nangona ubomi buzele kukungaqiniseki, sikholelwa ekubeni sihamba phambili ekwenzeni izigqibo. Ukungahoyi inyani yokuba izigqibo zethu zenziwa ziintsomi kunye neenkolelo ezikhoyo kuluntu lwethu.
Ndakuqonda oku xa umntwana wam wesifo sentliziyo esazalwa naye wangena kulo mhlaba. Uvelwano olungafunwayo nemibuzo emininzi yayingqonge intsapho yakowethu. Kulindeleke ukuba uninzi loluntu lube luzama ukunyanzelisa inyani yokuba oku kunokuba yimpazamo kamama, ukutya kwakhe, i-karma yakhe kunye nendlela yakhe yokuphila. Ewe bendingumoni emehlweni esininzi. Bambalwa kakhulu abakholelwa ukuba licebo likaThixo.
Ndisikelelwe kakhulu ngokukwazi ukungeva, xa kuziwa kubomi bam bobuqu kwaye ndigxile kwindlela yam. Oku kwandenza ndasemzini kweli butho lasekuhlaleni njengoko ndazala isidalwa sasemzini nam, umntwana wam owazalwa sisifo sentliziyo.
Yayiyimini entle ukufika kwakhe apha emhlabeni. Emva kokuba nomntwana okhulelwe ngokupheleleyo njengesigulana esikhwele ebhedini, bendicinga ukuba ukuzalwa kukaLil wam kuya kutshintsha izinto kodwa khange ndicinge ukuba iphepha elitsha leli sele liza kuvulelwa mna nosapho lwam.
Kwaye ke uthotho lwee-awws kunye ho haye (isenzo esifana no-oh esibi) saqala, uvelwano olungathandekiyo, iingcebiso ezingafunekiyo zatsalwa kuwo onke amacala. Esona senzo sibuhlungu yayiyile tweet evela kubalingane baseIndiya apho babekhankanya ukuba ngenye imini unyana wam uyakuba ngumgrogrisi kwaye uza kubahlasela… ngokungathandabuzekiyo umntwana ongazi kwanto efumene ukungathandeki.
Ngosuku olwafunyaniswa ngalo unyana wam wesifo sentliziyo, ndahlala ndicinga ngezinye iintsapho zesifo sentliziyo endazalwa nazo. Ukuba nomntwana onesiphene sokuzalwa kuthathwa njengomvuzo wezenzo ezimbi kweli hlabathi, iintsapho ezityhubela iimeko ezicinezelayo azimkelwa luluntu.
Ndisayikhumbula ingcebiso yokuqala engathandekiyo endayifumanayo ekuchongeni umntwana wam yayinguGqirha wezinto zabantwana, owathi “Nina bantu bancinci, ninokuba nabantwana abapheleleyo nabagqibeleleyo, shiya lo mntwana ngendlela ayiyo, enganyangwa, njengoko akanakamva, musa ukuchitha imali namandla kuye ”.
Ngaphandle kokufumana uthando kunye nokunyanyekelwa okukhulu, ngandlela thile ukubekwa amabala kwiindawo zethu kusichaphazele, ngaphandle kokuzama konke okusemandleni ethu ukungahoyi. Kwelinye icala uninzi lweentsapho alunako.
Ngelixa kukho ubukho bokuzithemba, kukho ukungakhathali nako. Ndakhe ndacelwa yinenekazi kwintengiso, ngaba ubuzula-zula ekusithekeni kwelanga ngexa lokukhulelwa, imikhosi emibi iphumile ngelo xesha, echaphazela umntwana wakho. Injongo yakhe inokuba ilungile kodwa le nto yenze umama onje ngam ukuba acinge, ngaba le ntsomi iyinyani.
Singaqondanga siqala ukucinga ukuba abanye bacela ntoni okanye basabela njani. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba womelele kangakanani, okanye awukhathalelanga kangako ngehlabathi. Ndatyhalwa kuwo onke amanyathelo.
Ngelixa wayecela umnikelo omnye umnini-NGO wandixelela ukuba akakholelwa ukuba siyayidinga imali kuba besinganxibanga malaphu aqhekekileyo. Izigwebo zethu ngamanye amaxesha ziyingozi.
Ibali lam nonyana wam lide; Iintsapho esele zilwela ubomi babantwana babo kufuneka bajongane noxinzelelo lweemvakalelo, lwezezimali nolwezengqondo. Ukwenza izinto lula kwiintsapho ezilula kulula, ngokususa ezo zihlazo eluntwini. Ndihlala ndisithi ukukhetha amagama ngobulumko kunokwenza abanye kunye nobomi bethu bube lula.
Usapho lwam kunye nam andikhathalelanga olwa hlazo lungathandekiyo kwaye saphuma, sisazi ukuba olu luhambo olude lobomi, kufuneka sijongane nala mabala ngandlela thile kwakhona kubomi bethu amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ndithembe ngamanye amaxesha uvelwano yindlela ebhetele kuneemfesane.
Le bhlog lelinye iphepha lam lencwadi yam, ndiyabulela kubo bonke abo bemi ngakwicala lethu xa unyana wam ehlangabezana nobunzima.
